Patterns in dating
We were shocked when we heard that the first guy Rihanna seriously dated after Chris Brown had been accused of domestic abuse by an ex-girlfriend.After everything she went through, it would seem as if she'd be repulsed by men with that kind of reputation. "Most of us have a relationship pattern — that same type of guy we keep falling for — and it can work for or against us," says couples therapist Deborah Dunn, author of Stupid About Men."It's not uncommon for women to keep going back to the type that wronged them in the past." How do you change whom you're drawn to dating?It's not easy, but it starts with figuring out where your attraction to these guys came from in the first place.She explained her approach on The Early Show Monday and brought along two women taking part in her program.There are a lot of skeptics who would say love should find you; you shouldn't go looking for it.Kirschner even suggests using a love mentor (someone good at playing devil's advocate while consistently boosting your confidence and making you feel good) as an important step to her 90 day program.
Kirschner insists that women from every walk of life who give her 90 days and work the program she offers will find love.
Using an online dating service isn't just for losers anymore.
She says dating several men at once not only builds your confidence, but keeps all the relationships moving slowly due to forced moderation.
How are we supposed to know when our attractions should be warning signs?
What qualities should we steer away from when we don’t even know a person yet?